As parents

Who started out with open adoptions...and then the birthmothers either ceased contact or decided they wanted no contact (Diablo 3 Gold)..how long should we keep that "door" open?

I would assume, and correct me if I'm wrong Po, that your children were infants when you adopted them. They would have been infants the last contact they had with their birthmother, meaning they have no "real" memory of her. That is also the case in my adoption although mine was through foster care.

If, as in my case, when he's..just as an example, 15..she contacts him...should that door be opened up again? Is it in his best interest to have contact with a virtual stranger at that age? She may be "blood" related to him but she could walk past him on the street and not know him...by her choice.

How long should a parent "give" the birthmother without contact before they say enough (Diablo 3 Gold)?

The one thing I have asked of people in his life was to please be consistent. Children need a sense of stability..they don't need people who pop in and out of their lives like a jack in the box. Should that apply also to their birthmothers?

I hope this isn't troll bait But I'd like to believe it's legit.

"Go wrong" is open to so many interpretations. I think in general you shouldn't promise things you well know are difficult to follow through on, as well as simply things happen in life over then next 18+ years you have no control over. At the same time, the birth mother also has to recognize best wishes today may not be really doable in years to come.

Personally, I don't have any "fear" of the child running off back to the birth parents (Diablo 3 Gold), largely based on the circumstances our kids came from. I do think it would be natural for a child as they grow up and become more aware of life and the world to want to know more about their birth parents. Perhaps when old enough even spend time with them. If you're in an open they are there for life. 

The square footage thing is not a great measure

I agree that calling it an "upgrade" is a stretch, but when you consider the potential expenses involved in keeping a house habitable in the face of things like weather, seismic activity, plumbing system issues, etc. there's no comparison...even a small foundation or plumbing repair can cost what a nice new RV does (Diablo 3 Gold), and all that outlay does is put you back to square one...and unlike buying an RV you have no choice but to do it.

Then there's ongoing costs- purchasing my little used RV that I lived in for five years cost me almost exactly the same money used as one years worth of property taxes on the house I currently live in.

seriously- what makes you think that the skills successful foundation and operation of an "intentional community" are any different from the skills needed for any other community to run smoothly?

And why on Earth do you think that being snarky and argumentative and snide and snotty at the drop of a hat is anywhere on the list of the kinds of qualities people would INTENTIONALLY want to associate with (Diablo 3 Gold)?

In other words, if you don't have the skills of basic logic and critical thinking needed to figure out answers to such basic questions as "what skills are needed for a community to operate" and "how do people develop skills", then you probably aren't going to be of any value to anyone.

And this is doubly true if you are an oversensitive asshole who gets all pissy and angry and lashes out over something as inconsequential as a post on an internet message board...seriously, if you would even *consider* taking the time to do shit like that instead of just letting it pass, you are most definitely NOT someone who will be able to function happily or last as a valued member of any kind of small community, "intentional" or not.

Not picking on anyone, just something I noticed

You guys have your diet down pretty much, but the exercise is lacking (Diablo 3 Gold)... I see a lot of "if I feel like it" or "maybe"s

Just a suggestion, nobody ever feels like a brutal workout - it's not until AFTER it's over that you feel amazing. The hardest part is getting started. if you can plan your meals out in advance, you can plan your workouts in advance.

Weight loss isn't just about diet.... exercise will help you utilize that food better and it will help speed up your metabolism.

I would suggest making a fitness goal - run a 5K before the year is over, bench 100lbs, hike a mountain, etc.... you all seem to have weight goals, but no fitness goals...seems like as long as your heart rate is slightly elevated, you're fine with that - maybe it's just me, but that doesn't seem very interesting - how do you track your progress (Diablo 3 Gold)? Same old scale in the bathroom?

Of course this is coming from someone who has the opposite problem - I work out a lot and I don't think about my diet enough! Just my .02 - different perspectives and all that.

 

 

"Sabotage"

Often Satie chose to short-circuit meaningfulness (Diablo 3 Gold). He deliberately assigned odd titles to his piano works. A compositional device of his was to short-circuit the narrative flow of a piece (where 'narrative flow' to me is an indication of best music, and of compositional skill). The story in Parade itself is meant to be plain silly. Thus, he was quite the original dadaist. I don't claim that he wasn't a great composer, but rather than he left little evidence. So perhaps that is because he hadn't the skill, or that he chose not to exercise it by esthetic choice.

(Sometimes Ives does the same thing. He opts to provide passages where his esthetics or his philosophy trumps good compositional practice. Sometimes such boldness achieves wonderful results, and sometimes it doesn't. Experimentalism is welcome in the arts - because succeeding composers can harvest compositonal ideas from it in order to create 'better' music - And have].

I'm a Satie enthusiast. One year I listened to his piano works almost exclusively (Diablo 3 Gold). But I think that he has left little evidence of being even a good composer - and sometimes evidence of being an incompetent composer (perhaps by choice). -

And yet I am an enthusiast - probably because of his unique outsider voice: sort-of a cold consideration of living. Perhaps his best composed piece is Parade simply because of its extended length. Yet I am most intriqued by Danse Travers(?) and the Sarabandes. (One may make a case that the 1888 Sarabandes are the first works of 'modern' music).

And so it is to Satie's credit that his intriquing unique voice persists despite his lax compositional skill and despite his own attempts to 'sabotage' his own reputation | a sort-of amazing manifestation of persistence. 

POA vs Guardianship

I think? You might be confused about what a POA is (Diablo 3 Gold). If there are any other posters following this thread, give us some Legal 101, pls. And clue ME in if I'M wrong.

My understanding is this – a POA is legal documentation, usually prepared by an attorney, that appoints a personally chosen person(s) to handle the HC and / or financial matters based on another's personal wishes. The court is not involved with POAs. It's strictly between the 'grantor' and the grantor's 'agent(s)'.

You say your sister had no financial authorization, but you also say she repeatedly took actions that one might take if they were authorized. That's more than a little odd. Is it possible she had this financial authorization way before the Guardianship was ever needed?

Who did you say was handling your father's financial business? If your sister has no authority over financials but has acted all along as if she has – then this is sounding mighty messy to me and if this has been going on for a long time I would also think that legal actions would have already been started by? The nursing home, the bank, any creditors (Diablo 3 Gold)? Anyone with financial dealings with your dad (her).

Whoa, I'm really understanding now what SteamH was talking about when she was caring for her father but didn't have any control of the finances. OMG, SteamH, I'm understanding in a whole new light…talk about a financial sacrifice. It cost me at least $10/hr to have someone come and sit with my dad while I went to work … or while I went …anywhere without him. We live pretty rural, it's a 35 minutes drive before I start 'seeing' storefronts and that's one way. Aside from the cost, I had to make sure I totally trusted this person with my dad's needs plus whatever personal things I had in my home (ours and my father's) that the person might want to peruse while I was gone. You already know all this, sorry.

 

 

Hey I resemble that remark!

I'm 53, and I can unload all those plates, I've done it a few times (D3 Gold).

However, I resent cleaning up behind some sweaty grown man or woman. It's not that I can't, but I acutally have a time frame in which I need to complete my workout so I can be somewhere else on on schedule.

I don't want to spend my time cleaning up behind someone else. If you don't want to re-rack your plates, bring your mom to the gym with you, maybe she doesn't mind cleaning up behind you. She can pick up your sweaty towel off the gym floor while she's at it and wipe down the bench after you too.

People leave the 45 pounds plates on the floor sometimes too and I've picked those up two at a time to put them away.

It's not that this 53 year old lady can't, it's that I don't want to.

I agree, I shouldn't have to. The trainers are forever cleaning up behind people, but sometimes there is so much mess -- plates left on the floor, stacks left on the machines, towels left on the floor, that they can't keep up with everything no matter who much they try -- they'd turn into the maintanance crew instead of trainers (D3 Gold).

I do resent having to tidy up behind someone if I want to use a specific machine, or simply not trip on the weights left on the floor, but I do feel good that I CAN do it, I'm not helpless. 

Do you find yourself sexually attracted to women?

If you answered yes to both, you're bisexual.

If yes only to the first you're gay, if only to the second, you're straight (Diablo iii Gold).

If you are attracted only to women and not men, does being attracted to TG women suddenly reverse everything you know about yourself and your own preferences? I'd think not... but you are welcome to self identify as gay if that makes sense to you.

There is no judgement free term for men attracted to TG women. TG women tend to call them either "tranny chasers" or "my boyfriend"... depending on their own orientation and sexual hang-ups. Non TG persons (and some TG persons) call them "gay". But you don't have to accept any label applied to you from the outside. Just like transfolks, you also have a right to self label. Everyone does.

But look at it this way... do you think of transwomen as women or men? If they are men to you then you should consider yourself gay. If they are women to you, then you're heterosexual.

I simply asked a question and you quite frankly not only insulted me with a sarcastic and fictitious answer but yourself and an entire community by suggesting that one would have to be horny to be attracted to a transgendered person (Diablo iii Gold). Maybe it's abnormal for someone to feel that way but hundreds of thousands of people have this attraction so I was curious to know if there happened to be a term for it. Then again, maybe straight, gay or bi(Hi) covers this as well.